Networking, not just a
job-hunting tool
by Bill Clayton
Folks commonly think of networking as a job-hunting
tool, and it is, indeed, one of the very best. According to the
Wall Street Journal, 94 percent of those who've just found jobs
said that networking was their primary search tool.
However, networking isn't just for job hunting.
It's a natural way to share information such as the name of a good
hairdresser, handyman, doctor or lawyer - or even a good jar of
chunky peanut butter.
Rick Frishman, co-author of the recently released
Networking Magic, says
that the three most important words in networking are "giving, giving,
giving."
Imagine a scenario like this: A young woman creates
a cookie recipe and gives it to a friend. The friend loves the recipe
and, knowing the young woman plays tennis, gives her a racquet that's
as good as new but has been in a closet for years. The young woman
eventually passes the racquet to her coworker, who gives the racquet
to her son. When the son learns that the young woman loves to play
tennis, they meet for a game.
In time, he discovers that she also loves him
and they marry and live happily ever after - all because the young
woman had a network of friends and was generous enough to share
her recipe for cookies.
This is a perfect example of networking, which
is the art and practice of giving to others - without the thought
of personal gain - and eventually reaping the rewards of being benevolent.
"The more you give," Frishman says, "The more
you get back - you get it back ten-fold."
Of course, sharing requires communication, a
social activity that can be as much fun as it is profitable - as
long as you remember some guidelines that will improve your chances
of success.
Networking rules of thumb
There is no handbook for networking, but there
are some helpful guidelines.
Find the best.
The best people lead
to the best relationships, but it often takes patience to find
them. Google the folks you intend to contact. It's always easier
to talk to someone about the weather if you know what climate
they live in.
Be yourself. The great philosopher Popeye the Sailor once said,
"I am what I am and that's all that I am." Don't try to be impressive.
Chances are you'll do just fine by being yourself.
Tell
it like it is. Jim Frenza, retired president and CEO of the Hands-On
Museum in Ann Arbor, did a lot of elbow-rubbing during his career.
His advice is simple: "To network effectively," he says, "tell
the truth and learn how to listen well."
Keep
at it. Networking isn't a one-time event. It's a way of life.
Do it systematically and regularly, even when you're not looking
for a job.
Say
thanks. After any encounter, follow up. Say thank you - always.
A letter or phone call has always been the recommendation. But
this is a new age, so e-mail is fine. In fact, many people prefer
it.
Be
equipped. If you're networking for a job, carry business cards,
a pen and a small pad of paper to write on. Make notes right on
the backs of the business cards you collect.
Keep
track of contacts. Know where, when and why you've sent mail and
e-mail, and made phone calls. Knowing where you've thrown your
darts is the best first step in retrieving them successfully.
Cultivate
new relationships. Keep an eye out for opportunities to add new
faces to your network. Introduce yourself to people you don't
know but would like to. Send a note of congratulations to someone
whose big promotion appeared in the newspaper. All old friends
were new friends at one time.
Where the networks are
There are countless networks waiting for
you to find them. But you're already part of more networks than
you might imagine.
Personal networks:
What might be your most valuable network - mothers, fathers, sisters,
brothers, friends - consists of all the folks who will say they're
glad to see you, even when they aren't.
Be nice to them. You just might meet your
next best friend or boss at an uncle's barbecue.
Social networks:
Those folks you spend time with at parties, at the gym, on the hiking
trail, at the museum. They're living proof that networking can and
should be fun.
Professional
networks: Your current and former coworkers, bosses, clients
and friends in professional associations are a fertile group for
job-hunters. Don't ever forget that old adage - "Be nice to the
people you meet on the way up. You just might meet them again on
your way down."
Academic networks:
Professors, lecturers, and current and former classmates can be
a wonderful network and source of good contacts with professionals
in the field of your choice.
A last word about networking
"Somewhere along the line networking got
a bad reputation," says Frishman. "Going to meetings. Collecting
business cards. Manipulating people to give you things. But that's
not networking. Networking is giving. It's all about helping the
people you know.
"The time to start networking is in kindergarten,"
Frishman says. "I ran across a guy who ended up getting a job from
a girl he knew in second grade.
It works.
And it's fun. That might sound corny, but
it's true - I've seen it happen over and over in doing research
for my book - if you have a good time taking care of the people
in your networks, then good things will happen for you. Listen to
them. Talk to them."
InterNetworking
The Internet is the latest, greatest way
to connect with folks. It's fast and it's efficient. E-mail will
keep you wired to personal, social, professional and academic networks
around the world. Mailing lists will deliver useful info to your
e-mail inbox everyday - join a few and mine them for leads. Message
boards are a low-risk way to network anonymously, and online job
boards are hugely popular ways to find contacts in a cyber network.
Some of the most popular ones are: